[3] She graduated from Wesleyan University in 2015[5] with a degree in sociology. Deciding how many bites is too many. Myers goes on to then explain how that had a clear effect on her as a young woman, developing her own self esteem and body confidence.

She says she doesn't deprive herself, but I've learned to find nuance in every movement of her float, in every crinkle in her brow as she offers me the uneaten pieces on her plate. spend enough time sitting across from someone and you pick up their habits. I’m not going to lie. I wonder what she does when I’m not there to do so. I took lessons from our mother in creating space around myself. Shrinking Women Poem by Lily Myers - Poem Hunter. For her mother, this manifests as consuming fewer calories, and Myers additionally links this to her own use of apologies when asking questions in class. This poem has not been translated into any other language yet. but I’ve learned to find nuance in every movement of her fork. [2], "Why Lily Myers' "Shrinking Women" Is Necessary", "Slam Poet Lily Myers Is Releasing A Novel In Verse About Eating Disorders & Self-Worth — SEE THE COVER", "Young Poet's 'Shrinking Women' Goes Viral", "Lily Myers's Poem "Shrinking Women" is an Awesome Look at How Food, Family, and Self-Worth Intersect", "The Internet-famous poet Lily Myers '15 spoke to the Argus about her inspirations and aspirations, as well as her soon-to-be-published book", https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Shrinking_Women&oldid=957389265, Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike License, This page was last edited on 18 May 2020, at 16:21. Thanks for sharing, Lily. His stomach has grown round with wine, late nights, oysters, poetry. Across from me at the kitchen table, my mother smiles over red wine that she drinks out of a measuring glass. Maybe this is why my house feels bigger each time I return; it's proportional. I want to say: we come from difference, Jonas. But, I am a huge Hip-Hop Head. I took lessons from our mother in creating space around myself A new girlfriend who was overweight as a teenager, but my dad reports that now she’s “crazy about fruit.”. Myers was invited on the radio show Here and Now to talk about the poem in 2014. you have been taught to grow out, “Inheritance is accidental,” Lily Myers says in her spoken word poem “Shrinking Women” that recently went viral. Your email address will not be published. The Shrinking Woman — a poem about the way women are conditioned Barbara Roberts ♦ 21st October 2013 ♦ 20 Comments Just for today, we’re breaking our pattern of one post per weekday, because the Child Custody Battles post is just a set of links. [3] When spoken, the poem is about three and a half minutes long. Great piece. Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window), Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window), Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window), Fall 2013 review: Digital Forensics & Cybersecurity at John Jay College, Year 1 review of Mastering Digital Forensics & Cyber Security at John Jay College, Citibike or Shitibike? [2] The poem explores how Myers's mother, and as she realizes, herself, have been taught to take up less space, particularly to "make room" for men, such as Myers's brother and father. Realistic and powerful words written. Here is a link to the piece: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQucWXWXp3k. I can’t personally speak for those who do not identify as I do, but as a female I feel as though food is something you are taught to think about. I have been taught accommodation.

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My brother never thinks before he speaks. I learned to absorb “I have been taught accommodation” she exclaims, and I relate so much to that, always apologizing, always saying yes, always helping out. I've realized she only eats dinner when I suggest it. I want to say: we come from difference, Jonas; you have been taught to grow out; I have been taught to grow in; you learned from our father how to emit, how to produce; I took lessons from our mother in creating space around myself. as my grandmother became frail and angular her husband swelled to red round cheeks, round stomach, I wonder if my lineage is one of women shrinking. “How can anyone have a relationship to food?” He asks, laughing, as I eat the black bean soup I chose for its lack of carbs.

I hear her creep down to eat plain yogurt in the dark, a fugitive stealing calories to which she does not feel entitled, deciding how many bites is too many, how much space she deserves to occupy.Watching the struggle I either mimic or hate her, and I don't want to do either anymore. still staring at me with wine-soaked lips from across the kitchen table.

"How can anyone have a relationship to food?" 2020 Bustle Digital Group. I’ve realized she only eats dinner when I suggest it. You learned from our father how to emit, how to produce, to roll each thought off your tongue with confidence, you used to lose your voice every other week from shouting so much. I learned to read the knots in her forehead while the guys went out for oysters,

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My brother never thinks before he speaks. I … [6] In 2016, she announced the release of her debut novel, This Impossible Light, which was written in verse. This is a really cool premise for a blog! "Shrinking Women" is a poem by Lily Myers. That's why women in my family have been shrinking for decades. It was the same with his parents; We all learned it from each other, the way each generation taught the next how to knit The poem touches on so many things: eating disorders, women’s tendency to say “sorry” all the time, the way we socialize boys and girls differently, our relationship to our parents and the things we pick up without meaning to. Most times you get feminist poetry, it’s about some sort of trauma, so this is refreshing in a way. "How can anyone have a relationship to food?" Men tend to allow themselves to take advantage of the way the woman's role is, while the women collapse into themselves.

picking up all the habits my mother has unwittingly dropped like bits of crumpled paper from her pocket on her countless trips from bedroom to kitchen to bedroom again, All information has been reproduced here for educational and informational purposes to benefit site visitors, and is provided at no charge... Recite this poem (upload your own video or voice file). I want to say: we come from difference, Jonas, Lily captures this difference in the way we as girls were taught by our mothers to be congenial so eloquently. In this powerful piece performed at Barnard College in New York City, student Lily Myers provides a powerful statement on gender equality through the lens of the relationship people, particularly women have with food and their bodies. making space for the entrance of men into their lives. Lily Myers understands and empathizes with the millions of women who understand the struggle of having a negative relationship with food and their own bodies all too well. In every crinkle in her brow as she offers me the uneaten pieces on her plate. Her mother, Myers tells us, is the latest in a line of shrinking women in her family, women who grow smaller and smaller, who eat as though they think they don’t deserve food. You can and should check out the full poem here: Image: screenshot from buttonpoetry via YouTube. Definitely worth a listen! Deciding how many bites is too many How much space she deserves to occupy. that's why women in my family have been shrinking for decades. A well texted and nicely thought out poem. Required fields are marked *. This is an amazing piece, and your analysis of it is great. © Poems are the property of their respective owners. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. I don’t know the requirements for the sociology major because I spent the entire meeting deciding whether or not I could have another piece of pizza "How can anyone have a relationship to food? " Post was not sent - check your email addresses! you have been taught to grow out skin itching, I have been taught to grow in Your email address will not be published.

Like not even once. that's why women in my family have been shrinking for decades. Lily Myers is a student at Wesleyan University in Connecticut, this poem by her captures so much of what I felt growing up with my mother and how so many girls are unknowingly taught to be. And I don’t want to do either anymore you learned from our father how to emit, how to produce, to roll each thought off your tongue with confidence, you used to lose your voice every other week from shouting so much still staring at me with wine-soaked lips from across the kitchen table. This poem was awarded Best Love Poem at the tournament. Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Myers does an incredible job of being very descriptive of what she feels and sees around her, and I think that is important when describing something as important as gender equality. She also uses this conversation to open up one about gender equality. This spoken-word poem has been making the social media rounds for several days now. This was definitely an engaging and unique way to approach talking about a social issue like gender equality and self-image.

"Shrinking Women" is a poem by Lily Myers. and I wonder if my lineage is one of women shrinking,

Lily Myers, performing for Wesleyan University at the 2013 College Unions Poetry Slam Invitational. You learned from our father how to emit, how to produce, to roll each thought off your tongue with confidence, you used to lose your voice every other week from shouting so much. a circular obsession I never wanted, but For much of the poem, the poet also describes the body issues she has experienced as a woman.

Life changes and we can fall behind. I asked five questions in genetics class today and all of them started with the word "sorry." She goes into the relationship her mother had with food.

which I can still feel as I walk through this ever-growing house,